{"product_id":"m-othering","title":"(M)Othering: An Anthology","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan class=\"markedContent\"\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003e\u003cem\u003e(M)othering \u003c\/em\u003eis a universally understood phenomenon that speaks to the act of\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003ebecoming something unexpected and entirely outside ourselves. And this book is\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003ea collection of writing and art about that. Fifty-six contributors illuminate the\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003ekind of gritty, body mind soul transformations that only the mothering myth\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003ecan evoke. Their work will take you to wonder and wildness, kindness, beauty, \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003egrief, love.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese writers and artists show us what it means to create, to birth something, to love it, to suffer loss, to let go. They share their truths about trans-generational trauma. Some write of broken women, mothering their mothers and sisters, choosing not to be mothers. Having many mothers. Mothering grown children. Men who want to be mothered. Others tackle identity, adoption, abortion, addiction, self-care, sacrifice, nature and nurture, making art, unravelling, invention, loneliness, anger, laughter and joy. They are queer, Métis, Indigenous, French, male, Jewish, Mennonite, descendants of the Niisitapi (Blackfoot) and the Cree, settlers and immigrants. In unison, they speak about experiences far beyond the pathologizing of the pregnant female body.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhat People Are Saying\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e“The \u003ci\u003e(M)othering \u003c\/i\u003eanthology is as varied, complex, heart wrenching, joyful, poignant, warm, fraught, funny, whimsical, tragic, contradictory, and lovely as the experience of motherhood itself. I highly recommend the beautiful literary and visual offerings of this outstanding group of wise artists.” Angie Abdou, author of \u003ci\u003eThis One Wild Life: A Mother-Daughter Wilderness Memoir\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan class=\"markedContent\"\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003e“Motherhood is nothing if not complex. In this fresh anthology, many\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003emanifestations of motherhood reveal themselves through precise heartache and\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003edelight. Joan  Crate’s ‘Balloon Ride’ startled me, Sheri-D Wilson’s ‘Mother’ spoke\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eof loss and her comparisons to a broken hourglass stayed with me while\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eKatherine Smart’s ‘Reasons’ brought me right back to similar mornings. This is a\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003ebook for any mother who knows that Mothering is the most complex job a\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eperson can have. Prepare to have your heartstrings pulled.”\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eMicheline Maylor\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003e, author of\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cem\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eThe Bad Wife\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan class=\"markedContent\"\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003e“This collection is startling and transformative as the artists invigorate the myth\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eof mothering with honesty and passion.” \u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eCathy Ostlere\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003e, author of\u003c\/span\u003e\u003cem\u003e \u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003eLost: A Memoir\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Editors\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAnne Sorbie\u003c\/strong\u003e has published three books, including the poetry collection, \u003ci\u003eFalling Backwards Into Mirrors\u003c\/i\u003e (Inanna, 2019). Her work has appeared in magazines, e-zines, journals and anthologies, and on CBC Canada Writes. Her poetry has been translated into Farsi and broadcast by Ottawa Persian Radio (2021), and shared in Piacenza, Italy as part of Global Poetry Patchwork (2020). She is a staunch believer in equity and an active community advocate. Her writing often focuses on the lives of women. Anne lives in Calgary, Alberta. \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/www.annesorbie.com\"\u003ewww.annesorbie.com\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eHeidi Grogan\u003c\/strong\u003e‘s writing and work address issues at the intersection of trauma, social justice, and spirituality. She has published in \u003ci\u003eROOM magazine, Weavings\u003c\/i\u003e, and the \u003ci\u003eBoobs Anthology\u003c\/i\u003e (Caitlin Press, 2016). For 15 years, she taught creative writing to women healing from sexual exploitation and edited their publication, \u003ci\u003eCry of the Streets\u003c\/i\u003e. She has engaged adults healing from trauma in multiple Calgary programs, attending to the links between poverty, literacy, and literary fluency. Heidi lives in Calgary, Alberta.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch5\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eExcerpts from the Book\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/h5\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMothering is a universally understood phenomenon that speaks to the act of becoming something unexpected and entirely outside ourselves. And this book is a collection of writing and art about that. On these pages, 56 contributors illuminate the kind of gritty, body mind soul transformations that only the mothering myth can evoke. Their work will take you to wonder and wildness, kindness, beauty, grief, love. This book encompasses written and visual work that questions the act of mothering another human being…whether or not the individual in the mothering role is, in a traditional way, a mother at all.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese writers and artists show us what it means to create, to birth something, to love it, to suffer loss, to let go. They share their truths about trans-generational trauma. Some write of broken women, mothering their mothers and sisters, choosing not to be mothers. Having many mothers. Mothering grown children. Men who want to be mothered. Others tackle identity, adoption, abortion, addiction, self-care, sacrifice, nature and nurture, making art, unravelling, invention, loneliness, anger, laughter, and joy. They are queer, Metis, indigenous, French, male, Jewish, Mennonite, descendants of the Blackfoot and the Cree, settlers and immigrants. In unison, they speak about experiences far beyond the pathologizing of the pregnant female body.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe poetry, prose and art in the \u003ci\u003e(M)othering\u003c\/i\u003e anthology are presented and arranged as if part of an open conversation. A flow and an exchange that begins with Sheri-D Wilson’s “Motherhood,” in which this often-revered state is a country named “incognito.” Speak her words as you read, because the poet reminds us that motherhood is “no place at all,” and one which “no one may claim \/ as [solely or completely] their own.” The dialogue that follows is a sharing of authenticity, bravery, and vulnerability; a discourse moving through states of being to Kathernea Vermette’s “egg,” Joan Crate’s “Story of the Seven Eves,” Mary Warren Foulk’s “Vision,” and Amy Dryer’s painting, “Night Time Rituals.” Marie-Manon Corbeil offers, “As (M)other As Artist,” and signals a great void when she says, “Between sadness and hope, there was art.” What she proposes is taken up and answered \/ echoed later in, “Date Night,” by artist Kyle Nylund. His figure drips mother-blood.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMothering is neither a linear experience, nor easily confined to a consistent form practised by all who mother \/ care for their siblings, parents, their colleagues and friends, or their children. To that end, the arrangement of works continues as an exploration rather than a traditional arrangement of genre and subject, and you, the reader, are invited to engage with the contributors in the demystification of mothering. Sanita Fejić in concert with the artist, Ambivalently Yours, speaks to raising a child with her wife, and Kelly S. Thompson to caring for her dying sister. Joan Shillington’s beautiful, “Daughters,” takes us to the image of water, to “oceans swoosh,” to “sand and stones.” Barb Howard’s, “Bigfoot Therapy,” to the strangeness and disorientation of the empty nest. While Chynna Liard and Penney Kome speak to the extended love that filled their experiences of being mothered. Rona Altrows takes us to 1974, and the kind of deeply flawed, institutional bias within which mothers were expected to function. Yvonne Trainer moves us, in and to “Halifax Public Gardens,” and Aritha van Herk to the hilarious and “Unfathomable Attraction of the Man Who Wants a Mother.”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e(M)othering\u003c\/i\u003e concludes with Natalie Meisner’s poem, “Left Me Open.” “How much meaning \/ can one word hold?” her first two lines ask. Indeed, how much meaning can one word, one act, one ‘change’ in identity encode?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eUltimately, you, the reader, and all who have mothered, and been mothered will answer that question. On these pages 56 writers and artists are grateful, wounded, elated, limping, filled with sadness and joy. They come to us with wounds shining. Their truths, words and images, attest to how mothering shatters and shapes us oh-so dreadfully and oh-so wondrously.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThe skilled panoply of styles published here expand the joyfulness of both the written and visual art from contributors who reside in North America from Vancouver to Tuscon, Toronto to Sante Fe, and places in between. They speak to the experience of what it means to create, to love, to be devastated, and to share truths about who they \/ we are.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey stand in the belly of her\/their\/his\/story. They are where they come from, what they’ve experienced, what they’ve created. Their work expresses and illuminates not only the kind of body, mind, and soul search that the mothering myth evokes. Their work speaks, and loudly, to the fact that we are all othered in some way. This book belongs; it is theirs and yours and ours.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e—Anne Sorbie and Heidi Grogan\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003epritchard park\u003cbr\u003eby Katherena Vermette\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eshe sits\u003cbr\u003eon the far park bench\u003cbr\u003eexhales cigarette smoke\u003cbr\u003eand cold\u003cbr\u003eher fingers trace\u003cbr\u003ethe rough\u003cbr\u003elines others have carved\u003cbr\u003einto the wood\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eher youngest daughter calls\u003cbr\u003ewants to swing\u003cbr\u003ewants to be pushed\u003cbr\u003euntil her feet kick the sky\u003cbr\u003euntil her little face hurts\u003cbr\u003efrom wind\u003cbr\u003eand laughter\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eshe stubs out her half-finished smoke\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003estumbles toward\u003cbr\u003ethe play structure\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ewhere her oldest daughter thumps\u003cbr\u003eher boots across the frozen\u003cbr\u003eplay bridge\u003cbr\u003eshe likes the sound\u003cbr\u003ehow its hinges\u003cbr\u003ehave a special song\u003cbr\u003ein winter .\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMothering in Lieu\u003cbr\u003eby Chynna Laird\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs an adult looking back over my life, I know how extremely fortunate I am to be where I am today. I suppose many people thought I’d end up in the void of children from questionable childhoods pushed aside and forgotten: children who simply slipped between the cracks of a tunnel-visioned system.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI’m sure you knew one of those kids who grew up on the wrong side of the tracks surrounded by chaos of one sort or another. That kid who obviously struggled with…something. That kid no one was courageous enough to stand up for or talk to. That kid who secretly waited for anyone to guide her out of her situation, someone brave enough to be positive, a person willing to help pull her out from the undercurrents tugging her back in the other direction, was me.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eI\u003c\/i\u003e was “that kid.”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMy mother was a young single parent raising two children. She’d chosen not to include our father in our lives, not because he was a bad guy, but more out of pride. Mom wanted to do it all on her own. Unfortunately, she wasn’t strong enough to meet the job requirements most of the time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAs I grew up and finally found my voice, I told people that my mom was pulled in three different, but equally powerful, directions: her struggles with bipolar that she refused to either acknowledge or treat, the crutches she turned to that she also refused to acknowledge or treat, and, her music. I still find it dumbfounding that my mother was truly one of the most talented people I’ve ever known, and yet she didn’t allow her talent to pull her away from the other forces. Her inner battles made my life with her frustrating, confusing and, sometimes, very frightening.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut unlike other kids in similar situations, I was blessed because I didn’t just have one person to reach out to and who reached out to me. I had \u003ci\u003efour\u003c\/i\u003e. Four beautiful, powerfully strong women, who each gave me a piece of mothering I needed so desperately.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMy grandmother was an accomplished artist and did everything a woman wasn’t supposed to do seventy years ago. She traveled, went to school, lived on her own, had a career and, shockingly, had relationships before marriage. She battled breast cancer, \u003ci\u003etwice\u003c\/i\u003e, and survived the disease during a time when the odds were against her. In the later stages of her life, she fought an unforgiving illness that stole us from her memory. And she did everything with grace, strength and dignity.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eGrandma gave me the gifts of courage, wisdom and passion while teaching me that women had the ability to do anything, be anyone and go further than people of her era believed they should have been allowed to. And I hold her final words to me, when she still recognized my face, close to my heart: “You be true to yourself, Dumpling. I believe in you and always will.”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI also had an aunt who shot-from-the-hip and never accepted, “I can’t!” from me. She taught me that a woman can be strong \u003ci\u003eand\u003c\/i\u003e feminine \u003ci\u003eand\u003c\/i\u003e self-supporting, even while in a marriage. She taught me to follow my heart and to do what I love, not what others told me was safest or best for me.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eAunt Dorothy gave me the gifts of self-reliance, resilience, and self-esteem. And even in times when I believed my dream was too far away, she showed me how to get there.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMy loving godmother whose pure, unconditional love and kindness restored my faith and repaired my soul, convinced me that my existence mattered. She taught me to trust the words, “I love you,” and that love didn’t have to hurt. She believed in me during a time when I’d lost myself and had wanted to give up. She taught me to see the good, always, even when things seemed foggy.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eMy godmother, Auntie Lois, gave me the gifts of faith and love, not just for others but, most importantly, for myself. Because to love others, we need to love ourselves and our Higher Power (whatever that may be) \u003ci\u003efirst\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFinally, I had a beautiful stepmother, who I have never called “step.” She loved me as her own from day one. She taught me about new levels of friendship, trust and family I’d never known about before her presence in my life. She showed me how a woman can balance family, work and self while being true to each. Through her I also learned that a stepmother wasn’t a replacement mom but a “Bonus Mom.”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eRobin gave me the gifts of acceptance, self-respect and the importance of staying true to my values.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eSo, even though my birth mother wasn’t able to mother me the way she’d wanted to, everything turned out okay. My bitterness faded long ago because I realized things could have gone a very different route.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eYes. I was “that kid.” But how amazing is it that I had four fantastic women to mother me, each in her own way. Their combined gifts were the exact doses of nurturing I needed to survive, thrive and grow. I credit each of them for helping me to become the mother I am to my own four children.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThese amazing women are still in my life. I don’t tell them often as I should how truly grateful I am that they never treated me as “that kid.”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eThey were the brave ones, my mothers in lieu.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch4\u003eMothering My Mother\u003cbr\u003eby Katherine Matiko\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eWe hold our stories in our bodies\u003cbr\u003etend them like eggs\u003cbr\u003erelease them one\u003cbr\u003eby one.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI’m mothering\u003cbr\u003emy mother\u003cbr\u003epacing my steps to hers\u003cbr\u003eseeing the world with her eyes.\u003cbr\u003eWhen a story comes\u003cbr\u003eshe smiles\u003cbr\u003ea memory unbidden\u003cbr\u003ean egg of a story\u003cbr\u003enurtured and kept\u003cbr\u003efor many years\u003cbr\u003elike a welcomed child.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eShe releases her story\u003cbr\u003eand I catch it\u003cbr\u003etend it in my body,\u003cbr\u003ein the hollow place\u003cbr\u003einside.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI’m mothering\u003cbr\u003emy mother\u003cbr\u003eholding her soft hands\u003cbr\u003estopping often\u003cbr\u003eto look at her world.\u003cbr\u003eHer stories are buried so deep\u003cbr\u003ethey may never hatch,\u003cbr\u003etrapped in a tangled nest\u003cbr\u003eof a brain. She is a fragile shell\u003cbr\u003eof herself, freed now\u003cbr\u003efrom the relentless passage\u003cbr\u003eof stories, of children\u003cbr\u003eand time.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eI’m mothering\u003cbr\u003emy mother\u003cbr\u003esaying goodbye\u003cbr\u003ebut afraid to release her\u003cbr\u003eto the world.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eStories spill from her eyes\u003cbr\u003eas she grasps my hands,\u003cbr\u003ethen simply lets me go.\u003cspan class=\"markedContent\"\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cspan dir=\"ltr\" role=\"presentation\"\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Inanna","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44540019310685,"sku":"9781771339124","price":18.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0562\/0826\/1213\/files\/M_othering.jpg?v=1782322234","url":"https:\/\/leftwingbooks.net\/en-us\/products\/m-othering","provider":"Leftwingbooks","version":"1.0","type":"link"}